Maybe we fear too much that the ones we love will fall in love with someone else; someone smarter, someone more attractive, someone with more common interests and there’s always the chance that this might happen but during these times you have to remember one very important thing:
There may be plenty of other women and men out there, but there’s only one you.
There’s only one you and that’s going to be enough for the right person. Whether that person stays or leaves and comes back, all you have to do is believe that while there may be other temptations and other people capturing their attention, there’s only one person who could capture their heart. There’s only one person who will be able to move them in a way no one else has. You have to trust yourself and have enough confidence in who you are and the way you love.
Because at the end of the day, you can only control your emotions, you can only control your heart and the rest is something you can’t predict and something you can’t really do much about. But in order not to lose your mind when you feel like maybe the person you’re into or the person you’re in love with is not completely invested or is still exploring their other options, you have to remember that there’s only one you.
No one talks the way you do. No one listens the way you do. No one has your quirks and your characteristics. No one has your sense of humor or your honesty. No one has your strength or your vulnerability. No one has your story. No one can make them feel the way you do.
And that doesn’t mean that you’re the right person for them but it just means that you’ve done your part by being yourself and loving them with all your heart. If you’re not what they’re looking for then that’s on them. It’s not about you anymore. It’s about what they’re looking for. What they’re seeking. It’s about the kind of love they’re looking for vs the kind of love you’re willing to give.
So whenever you feel threatened, scared, or afraid of losing someone to someone else, I hope you remember that there’s only one you. And I hope you realize that just because someone didn’t choose you doesn’t make you any less valuable or attractive. It just makes you a better fit for someone else. It makes you more available for someone who is looking for the kind of love you can give.
And to find that person you have to believe that you are incredible. That you are great. That you are enough. You have to believe that the right person may meet and get to know a bunch of other people more ‘intimidating’ but at the end of the day, they’ll choose you. They’ll pick you because you’re their special someone. They’ll choose you because there’s only one you and to them, you’re their world.
Rania Naim is a poet and author of the new book All The Words I Should Have Said, available here.